A little love advice for your Thursday AM. (Anyone else think this chick looks a little like that Bethanny girl from The Real Housewives of New York?)
Do you feel as if you know the drill that goes like this? First, the dates aren’t as fun. Then the calls stop getting returned. Next, the relationship ends. The tears fall. Your heart breaks. It’s over. Again.
“Rejection cuts deep because it slices at our core need to be loved,” explains LeslieBeth Wish, a Sarasota-based psychologist. But you can recover and even reduce your chances of rejection. Here’s how.
1. Put it in writing. Dallas-based dating coach Victorya Michaels Rogers finds value in journaling about your relationship patterns. “What really happened? Was he ‘all that’ or just an addiction? Were you in love with him or the idea of him? Often the pain is about the act of rejection rather than who did the rejecting,” she notes. “It’s important to know what is really behind the pain so you can regain self-esteem and move on. And writing it out reveals to your head — logically — what happened so you can move beyond the illogical grip of emotions. You’ll grow as a person and recover more quickly.” Continue reading here