Where's my Granny Memory when I need her?

Having a bit of struggle this week. I was raised to care about manners. Ok, to care a lot about manners. I reckon its part of my Southern heritage. And having to curtsy to my granny's friends. (For more on this crazy manners stuff, go here and here).

So why do some people chafe at my politeness? Coming up, I learned that manners were about making people feel respected and comfortable. And this belief was confirmed by an interview I did last week with Anna Post of the Emily Post Institute. But it seems the harder I try to be polite and agreeable, the more pissed off some people get. It's almost like some folks think it's a put-on, a ruse. A way of lulling them into thinking I'm their friend so I can stab them in the back later. Ooph!

What does this say about the current state of business affairs? What does it mean when even common courtesy is seen as a ploy? A way to get ahead? I'm not sure, but I don't think it's good.